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Another relationship post with Improv translations

I follow a couple of feel-good feeds on twitter. Tiny Buddha is one of them, I love the posts that deal with relationships because sometimes I feel that they are the applicable to good scenework on stage as well. Here is my translation in, I hope, understandable improv catch-phrases for you. But for the original article, please click on the title.

7 Vital Choices for Happy Relationships

1. Practice self love first.
(Improv translation – Take care of yourself first, you can make choices right from the top that will help your scene partner and you have a great scene, so take the time to do your things, they will help you support the other person you’re with.)

It seems like you can only have happy relationships if you can be happy with or without them. ~Erika Gonzalez

Know that it is not the other person’s job to make you happy. The only person who can do that is you! ~Christi Emmons

The ultimate kicker: be honest with yourself about who you are. ~Kelly Bell

Know that you can be yourself and still be accepted. The best relationship is when you bring out the best in each other, and you are purely content when neither has anything to say. ~Stephanie Schwenning

Take it off the page:

* Make a list or mental note of all the things to appreciate about you. Realize everyone has flaws, and there’s a lot more right with you than wrong with you.
* Work on forgiving yourself. The past is the past and you deserve to put it behind you, but no one else can let it go for you.
* Be good to yourself today. Practice yoga, meditate, or take a walk.

2. Focus on compatibility.
(Improv translation – Reach an agreement of sorts, everyone relates to everyone else differently, figure that out and agree that, that is the reality that you have established. You don’t have to keep inventing your reality, establish one and reap the benefits of being able to explore that reality to the fullest.)

Be best friends first. ~Wendy Nicholson

Have an incredible “like” for each other. ~Diane Bateman

Have shared (or at least compatible) values and communication. Everything else can be forgiven, accepted, or put aside, however values are the root of how we relate to all beings. ~Frank Ra

Find the person who inspires you to be a better you, and always encourage them to become the best them. ~Corinne Morrill

Take it off the page:

* If you’re single, do something social that you love. You’re more likely to meet compatible people if you get out there and foster your interests.
* If you’re in a relationship, spend some time sharing something you both enjoy. My boyfriend and I met at karaoke, so singing together is a great way to connect.
* If you’re in a relationship with someone and it always feels like hard work, ask yourself: are you trying to jam a square peg into a round hole? It can be scary to walk away from the wrong person, but it’s the only possibility of meeting someone who will feel right.

3. Practice acceptance.
(Improv translation – Improv is about accepting the imperfections of life and building on them. When we say, “Yes, And” we are accepting the way things are and making the most of it. It is how everyone wins.)

Accept that not everyone or everything is perfect. We are all perfectly flawed. ~Simon Kirk

Be non-demanding of your partner—partners don’t tell each other what to do. ~John Bigl

Mutual adoration and acceptance of the differences that make each of you individuals are keys to a phenomenal relationship. ~Casey Kimes

Happiness is a choice, as are all things in life. I choose to see and feel grateful for all of the best qualities in my partner, rather than focusing on shortcomings. ~Emily Roberts

Take it off the page:

* If you feel yourself focusing on everything someone appears to be doing wrong, ask yourself if there’s something else upsetting you. It’s easier to blame other people than it is to look in ourselves, but oftentimes that’s where the problem is.
* If you feel like changing something about someone else today, ask yourself what change you can make in yourself instead. If you feel unappreciated, show appreciation. It’s more empowering and productive to show people how to treat us than to complain about what’s lacking.
* If there’s something you just can’t accept, ask yourself if you’re willing to walk away because of it. We can’t change other people, but we can change our relationship to them.

4. Have realistic expectations.
(Improv translation – Dare to be boring. In life, interesting things happens every day when we open ourselves up to them, don’t feel the need to make it or force it to happen, just let it.)

Don’t expect it to be happy all the time. ~Stephanie Goddard

Don’t sweat the small things and speak up when it really is important to you. ~Elizabeth Sadhu

Remember that it isn’t always happy, but get through those not so happy moments together or apart, whichever is needed. ~Jessica Duff

Keep realistic standards for each other. ~Ashna Singh

Take it off the page:

* Eliminate the word should today—how a relationship should work, how people should act if they love you.
* Notice when you’re projecting something onto the other person that has nothing to do with them, like a fear from a past relationship. Then make an effort to let it go.
* Recognize when you’re looking for that person to do something for you that you need to do for yourself, like make you feel lovable or take care of your needs. Then release those expectations and do it for yourself.

5. Be kind in words and deeds.
(Improv translation – Listen. What you say and what you do matters in the scene. What your partner says and does matters in the scene.)

Think about the person’s feelings before you speak or criticize them. ~Dana Brewer Covey

Have a fast ear and a slow tongue. ~Mark Ward

Have compassion and grow together, not apart, as the years go on. ~Krista Tverdak

Love must be bigger and stronger than anything else. Never keep any record of your partner’s mistakes and faults and be ready to forgive. ~Mel Escobar

Take it off the page:

* Make an effort to really listen—not just wait to talk.
* See the other person as if for the first time. It’s all too easy to take someone for granted. Really notice all the wonderful things they do, and let them know what you see.
* If you get frustrated with each other, ask yourself, “Will this really matter after I’ve cooled down?”

6. Be honest.
(Improv translation – Vulnerability. One of the biggest things that you can do for yourself and your partner on stage is be vulnerable. When we allow ourselves to be vulnerable and react honestly to what is happening in the reality we’ve established, what we do is always interesting.)

Talk about things that leave you vulnerable from the heart. ~Cheryl Floyed

Compromise and dream together. ~ Becca Stinson

From my grandparents, who have been happily married for 60 years: the three C’s: caring, communication, and compromise. ~Emily Larsen

Don’t sweat the small stuff, and if something really is bothering you talk about it in a calm controlled manner. Leave drama in the theaters and movies. ~Ben Reyna

Take it off the page:

* Open up about something that you’ve been keeping to yourself. It doesn’t have to be big and dramatic. People can only be there for us if we let them.
* If something’s on your mind, express it without implying the other person is responsible for your feelings.

7. Remember to act.
(Improv translation – Don’t just stand there, do something. Do something physical, do something emotional, do something big, do something small, do something loud, do something quiet. But most of all, do something you wouldn’t normally do. You may just surprise yourself.)

When you’re bored, do something about it. ~Ernie Somers

Adjust to change. Adjust to moods, lifestyle changes, and new additions, and always remember to love. ~Elysia Cordero

The rest comes and goes as we change and grow and struggle, but being able to laugh together brings you back together. ~Kerry Kokkinogenis

Have rich individual pursuits and pursue things together. ~Laura Texera

Take it off the page:

* If you haven’t in a while, take time to do your own thing today—completely on your own or with friends.
* Take time to laugh together, whether it’s watching funny YouTube videos or trying something new together.
* If you feel dissatisfied with your life, don’t assume it’s your relationship. What other adjustments could you make to feel happier with your place in the world? Maybe you need to take a small step toward a hobby or more fulfilling job.

And lastly…

Start over again and again. ~Miguel Angel Carrillo Infante

It’s a new day–a new chance to practice giving and receiving love.

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